2 girls @ Prago
06.07.07 -
Thursday night I was driving home and decided I would give Gabe a call to see what was going on. After talking to Gabe, I realized that a large group of my friends were going over to Kraig and Kati’s place to watch soccer. My evening was going to consist of me going home, scrounging up some dinner and writing blogs for the rest of the night. Not having anything on my plate, I decided it would be a good time to hang out with Kraig, Kati, Max, Chad, Gabe and Jeremy. The soccer game I went over to watch was intense. I don’t think of myself as a huge sports fan, but when it comes to soccer on television or in real life I am pretty vocal. People have known to hear me make noises of an indescribable nature. After the soccer match I decided to go home. A little while later my friend Julie called and we decided to go and hang out.
Julie was one of the first friends I had in Spokane. We use to go hang out with friends and drink coffee till the wee hours in the morning. It was fun hanging out back then, but times change, people get busy, life happens, relationships happen, and finally you realize that you haven’t hung out in a very long time.
So we hung out. We talked about the current situation I am in and about the last few years in our lives. She gave me advice; we drank martinis and just chilled. It was quite enjoyable and I realized that evening I have a lot of people I call friends. When in a relationship I tend to be very focused on my relationship. I still want to hang with my friends, but tend to try to be concerned for the relationship first.
I remember one time when I helped a friend and I was in a relationship. This friend is a female and needed a place to stay because she was dealing with some issues in her own relationship. I was living with Kraig at the time and I knew he would be open to allowing my friend to stay over for a few days. I didn’t ask my girlfriend at the time… I didn’t think it was needed. See, I will do anything for a friend. Sick and need some soup? Okay I’ll be over. Stressed over a final? Let me bring over some chocolate. Need a place to crash and pick up the pieces? I have a couch.
Looking back, maybe it was disrespectful that I didn’t ask my girlfriend if it was okay to have another friend of mine to stay at my place. I guess I believed that she would understand my giving attitude and respect my decision. The decision wasn’t one of disrespect to my girlfriend; it was one to be a good person, a good friend. Needless to say we fought about my decision.
I miss my friends and realize I need to hang with them more often. I need to make the effort to go out of my way and have a good time with the good people in my life.
06.08.07 – 2 girls @ Prago
Friday evening the Spokane Spider had a home game at Spokane Falls Community College. It was another time I could hang with an old gang of friends and enjoy the company. When I first moved to Spokane the sport of Soccer was a foreign entity to me. I was very lucky to have soccer fanatics as roommates and they corrupted me to become quite a hooligan. Soccer matches are my anger management. The game was pretty aggressive. A player from Abbottsford got a Red card and a little scuffle on the field. One disappointing item I heard was that the Spiders are going to get cheerleaders. Soccer doesn’t need cheerleaders. If anything they need true cheerleaders who lead the sections of fans in cheers and chants. I could go into another rant about the marketing for the Spokane Spider this year… but that will be another blog.
The Spider won the match, to celebrate Gabe and I decided to go downtown for beers. We started at Isabella’s and had a beer while talking to the excellent bar staff. We then went to Prago. As we walked into the bar I saw two very good looking females. I looked their way and smiled a bit. Gabe and I had a beer and talked a bit further. Finally I said to Gabe, “I think I want to buy those two females a drink.” This started the great debate. From where Gabe was sitting he could not see if they were interested in us. From my seat I didn’t think they were. They were very engrossed in their conversation and I didn’t want to get in the middle of it. Gabe then asked if there drinks were empty. They were and it didn’t look like they were interested in getting more. We talked about if we could see wedding rings on their fingers.
For some reason when I look at someone I don’t look at their hand. Gabe was able to tell that at least one of them was not married or engaged.
The more we talked about it... the more I felt I should ask if they want a drink. As I explained to Gabe, “Only two things could happen. They either deny the drink or they accept. If they deny, they can be nice or they can be mean. If they are mean… well then I am glad I didn’t have to buy them a drink. If they are nice about it, well then chances are they might enjoy a drink at another time, but tonight they have other plans going on. If they accept the drink they can do one of two things. They can take the drinks and not talk to us. (To this I say all is fair in love and war. I offered you a drink and didn’t expect anything in return. Please enjoy a drink on me.) If they start talking to us after receiving the drinks, bonus, lets have some good conversation.
So, I took my place on stage and I walked over to the two females. I said something on the lines of “I hate to interrupt because it looks like you two are having a great conversation. I was just wondering if it would be okay if I and my friend bought you a drink.” They kind of looked at each other and smiled. Then the one female explained that she had to leave and had to drive. The other female explained she was leaving too. I said, “No worries; have a wonderful evening“. I went back to the table and told Gabe I was going to get another beer. I wasn’t upset at all... In fact I was feeling pretty good. It had been awhile since I randomly went up to a female at the bar and I proved to myself I could.
I enjoy finding out the reaction to such a scene. The more you learn about people the more you learn about society, or at least that’s my take on things.
Needless to say Gabe and I continued our conversation about college, jobs and other things. Before the ladies left they came over to the table and placed a napkin on the table. They then said “this is for you guys”.
I couldn’t help but smile. We made their night and in some odd change of events they made mine. I wasn’t looking for any kind of approval or endorsement but I got it. It felt good to put a smile on someone’s face. It felt good to be me and help someone be happy. I was on cloud nine and still am. Thank you the 2 girls from Prago. Some people have asked if I will place an “I saw you ad”. I feel no reason too. I content leaving the actions of that night right were they are.
Last night as I was moving books around in my apartment I found an old book I got for free called “Astonish yourself”. In it are things to think about and do that are random and might allow you to see yourself at a deeper level. These things include, go dance in the rain, spend 30 minutes in the park listening to the background noise, or tell a random person she’s beautiful. That last one I love and have done once. I think more people need to go to random people and tell them they think that person is beautiful, just don’t do it in a creepy manner. I have done it once at Mootsys. There was this attractive female and I said “I’ll probably never see you again but you’re gorgeous”. Funny thing is I saw her later that night at an after party of a friends… screwed that one up : p We talked a little at the party. I never mentioned what I said to her at the bar, but I never regretted saying it. I never did see her after that.
Telling someone that they are beautiful might be a weird thing to say. You’re likely to be slapped. No matter what you have caused a reaction. Reactions are good things… even when you don’t think they are. When I lived in Hutchinson Minnesota I broke up with my fiancé at the time because I felt we weren’t going to last and I didn’t want to be divorced at a young age. I still believe that marriage is a huge sacrament and something to cherish. Outside my apartment in Hutchinson, inside my 1991 Maroon Grand Prix, Diana stopped over before I had to go to an art class. Tears were dripping from her face as she said,”I’m sorry Ryan can’t we talk about this?” I said, “No, I’ve decided and I’m not even going to second guess myself this time.” She looked at me and with anger and sadness in her eyes she took her hand and slugged me in the face. That was the end. She threw the engagement ring to the ground during a fight and I felt a huge disrespect. My reaction was to break up. These reactions led to a good place. I am now living in Spokane enjoying my life. She is living her dream in Minnesota as a mother and wife.
Go out and cause a reaction today.
06.09.07
Saturday evening Sami invited me to a small gathering at her place. She told me to bring the liquor cabinet so I obliged. I’ve been dying to make a Vesper (James Bond) Martini. I needed to get some top shelf vodka and some lemons. I went in the liquor store and asked on a whim if they had Lillet Blanc. They did!! I was so excited. I could make a great martini now. I decided to go over to safeway and get some lemon. I won’t lie; I was feeling great since I found Lillet. I even flirted with check stand girl as see ran up my lemons. “Looking straight into her eyes I said, “Have a wonderful evening.” She smiled and looked back and said “you too...” Okay so maybe she wasn’t flirting... but I felt great!
I made a few martinis and had great conversations with a few on Sami’s friends and soon enough... well I was toasted. Sami and her friends are really into climbing. Someone thought it would be a great idea to make a slack line across the yard. Of course I had to try. Luckily I didn’t break anything, it was a great night and I guess I conked out and snored. Sorry, didn’t mean to do that.
So that was my weekend. I’m still smiling. The vesper martinis were great. I’m going to go for a four mile run now... maybe more.
Maybe I’ll even cause a reaction.
Peace.
Post Script – I came back from my four mile run and I caused a reaction… or someone caused a reaction to me. Anyways, I got honked at by a group of girls. That’s a huge moral boost.
:)
Thursday night I was driving home and decided I would give Gabe a call to see what was going on. After talking to Gabe, I realized that a large group of my friends were going over to Kraig and Kati’s place to watch soccer. My evening was going to consist of me going home, scrounging up some dinner and writing blogs for the rest of the night. Not having anything on my plate, I decided it would be a good time to hang out with Kraig, Kati, Max, Chad, Gabe and Jeremy. The soccer game I went over to watch was intense. I don’t think of myself as a huge sports fan, but when it comes to soccer on television or in real life I am pretty vocal. People have known to hear me make noises of an indescribable nature. After the soccer match I decided to go home. A little while later my friend Julie called and we decided to go and hang out.
Julie was one of the first friends I had in Spokane. We use to go hang out with friends and drink coffee till the wee hours in the morning. It was fun hanging out back then, but times change, people get busy, life happens, relationships happen, and finally you realize that you haven’t hung out in a very long time.
So we hung out. We talked about the current situation I am in and about the last few years in our lives. She gave me advice; we drank martinis and just chilled. It was quite enjoyable and I realized that evening I have a lot of people I call friends. When in a relationship I tend to be very focused on my relationship. I still want to hang with my friends, but tend to try to be concerned for the relationship first.
I remember one time when I helped a friend and I was in a relationship. This friend is a female and needed a place to stay because she was dealing with some issues in her own relationship. I was living with Kraig at the time and I knew he would be open to allowing my friend to stay over for a few days. I didn’t ask my girlfriend at the time… I didn’t think it was needed. See, I will do anything for a friend. Sick and need some soup? Okay I’ll be over. Stressed over a final? Let me bring over some chocolate. Need a place to crash and pick up the pieces? I have a couch.
Looking back, maybe it was disrespectful that I didn’t ask my girlfriend if it was okay to have another friend of mine to stay at my place. I guess I believed that she would understand my giving attitude and respect my decision. The decision wasn’t one of disrespect to my girlfriend; it was one to be a good person, a good friend. Needless to say we fought about my decision.
I miss my friends and realize I need to hang with them more often. I need to make the effort to go out of my way and have a good time with the good people in my life.
06.08.07 – 2 girls @ Prago
Friday evening the Spokane Spider had a home game at Spokane Falls Community College. It was another time I could hang with an old gang of friends and enjoy the company. When I first moved to Spokane the sport of Soccer was a foreign entity to me. I was very lucky to have soccer fanatics as roommates and they corrupted me to become quite a hooligan. Soccer matches are my anger management. The game was pretty aggressive. A player from Abbottsford got a Red card and a little scuffle on the field. One disappointing item I heard was that the Spiders are going to get cheerleaders. Soccer doesn’t need cheerleaders. If anything they need true cheerleaders who lead the sections of fans in cheers and chants. I could go into another rant about the marketing for the Spokane Spider this year… but that will be another blog.
The Spider won the match, to celebrate Gabe and I decided to go downtown for beers. We started at Isabella’s and had a beer while talking to the excellent bar staff. We then went to Prago. As we walked into the bar I saw two very good looking females. I looked their way and smiled a bit. Gabe and I had a beer and talked a bit further. Finally I said to Gabe, “I think I want to buy those two females a drink.” This started the great debate. From where Gabe was sitting he could not see if they were interested in us. From my seat I didn’t think they were. They were very engrossed in their conversation and I didn’t want to get in the middle of it. Gabe then asked if there drinks were empty. They were and it didn’t look like they were interested in getting more. We talked about if we could see wedding rings on their fingers.
For some reason when I look at someone I don’t look at their hand. Gabe was able to tell that at least one of them was not married or engaged.
The more we talked about it... the more I felt I should ask if they want a drink. As I explained to Gabe, “Only two things could happen. They either deny the drink or they accept. If they deny, they can be nice or they can be mean. If they are mean… well then I am glad I didn’t have to buy them a drink. If they are nice about it, well then chances are they might enjoy a drink at another time, but tonight they have other plans going on. If they accept the drink they can do one of two things. They can take the drinks and not talk to us. (To this I say all is fair in love and war. I offered you a drink and didn’t expect anything in return. Please enjoy a drink on me.) If they start talking to us after receiving the drinks, bonus, lets have some good conversation.
So, I took my place on stage and I walked over to the two females. I said something on the lines of “I hate to interrupt because it looks like you two are having a great conversation. I was just wondering if it would be okay if I and my friend bought you a drink.” They kind of looked at each other and smiled. Then the one female explained that she had to leave and had to drive. The other female explained she was leaving too. I said, “No worries; have a wonderful evening“. I went back to the table and told Gabe I was going to get another beer. I wasn’t upset at all... In fact I was feeling pretty good. It had been awhile since I randomly went up to a female at the bar and I proved to myself I could.
I enjoy finding out the reaction to such a scene. The more you learn about people the more you learn about society, or at least that’s my take on things.
Needless to say Gabe and I continued our conversation about college, jobs and other things. Before the ladies left they came over to the table and placed a napkin on the table. They then said “this is for you guys”.
I couldn’t help but smile. We made their night and in some odd change of events they made mine. I wasn’t looking for any kind of approval or endorsement but I got it. It felt good to put a smile on someone’s face. It felt good to be me and help someone be happy. I was on cloud nine and still am. Thank you the 2 girls from Prago. Some people have asked if I will place an “I saw you ad”. I feel no reason too. I content leaving the actions of that night right were they are.
Last night as I was moving books around in my apartment I found an old book I got for free called “Astonish yourself”. In it are things to think about and do that are random and might allow you to see yourself at a deeper level. These things include, go dance in the rain, spend 30 minutes in the park listening to the background noise, or tell a random person she’s beautiful. That last one I love and have done once. I think more people need to go to random people and tell them they think that person is beautiful, just don’t do it in a creepy manner. I have done it once at Mootsys. There was this attractive female and I said “I’ll probably never see you again but you’re gorgeous”. Funny thing is I saw her later that night at an after party of a friends… screwed that one up : p We talked a little at the party. I never mentioned what I said to her at the bar, but I never regretted saying it. I never did see her after that.
Telling someone that they are beautiful might be a weird thing to say. You’re likely to be slapped. No matter what you have caused a reaction. Reactions are good things… even when you don’t think they are. When I lived in Hutchinson Minnesota I broke up with my fiancé at the time because I felt we weren’t going to last and I didn’t want to be divorced at a young age. I still believe that marriage is a huge sacrament and something to cherish. Outside my apartment in Hutchinson, inside my 1991 Maroon Grand Prix, Diana stopped over before I had to go to an art class. Tears were dripping from her face as she said,”I’m sorry Ryan can’t we talk about this?” I said, “No, I’ve decided and I’m not even going to second guess myself this time.” She looked at me and with anger and sadness in her eyes she took her hand and slugged me in the face. That was the end. She threw the engagement ring to the ground during a fight and I felt a huge disrespect. My reaction was to break up. These reactions led to a good place. I am now living in Spokane enjoying my life. She is living her dream in Minnesota as a mother and wife.
Go out and cause a reaction today.
06.09.07
Saturday evening Sami invited me to a small gathering at her place. She told me to bring the liquor cabinet so I obliged. I’ve been dying to make a Vesper (James Bond) Martini. I needed to get some top shelf vodka and some lemons. I went in the liquor store and asked on a whim if they had Lillet Blanc. They did!! I was so excited. I could make a great martini now. I decided to go over to safeway and get some lemon. I won’t lie; I was feeling great since I found Lillet. I even flirted with check stand girl as see ran up my lemons. “Looking straight into her eyes I said, “Have a wonderful evening.” She smiled and looked back and said “you too...” Okay so maybe she wasn’t flirting... but I felt great!
I made a few martinis and had great conversations with a few on Sami’s friends and soon enough... well I was toasted. Sami and her friends are really into climbing. Someone thought it would be a great idea to make a slack line across the yard. Of course I had to try. Luckily I didn’t break anything, it was a great night and I guess I conked out and snored. Sorry, didn’t mean to do that.
So that was my weekend. I’m still smiling. The vesper martinis were great. I’m going to go for a four mile run now... maybe more.
Maybe I’ll even cause a reaction.
Peace.
Post Script – I came back from my four mile run and I caused a reaction… or someone caused a reaction to me. Anyways, I got honked at by a group of girls. That’s a huge moral boost.
:)
4 Comments:
Hehe, doesn't that make you feel awesome? To get a honk, or a whistle or something? Yeah, it does make you feel great! I'm glad you're happy in your life Ryan. You do sound happy. I had a great weekend too, playing at a charity golf tournament for my daughter's preschool. Never mind that my husband, nor myself don't play golf, it was a best ball tournament, and the guys we were with, were good, and patient with us. So, we had a lot of fun doing it. Came into the clubhouse after 18 holes with a -3 score! My husband did get 3 nice drives, that they used, and I got some great putts sunk. All in all, it was fun.
Friends are the bread and butter of life, I swear. We really need them around us.
You rock!!
feels great to do something nice for random strangers doesn't it? As good as having something nice done for yourself in many ways.
I love to do things like that. A few times recently when I've gone out, I've had random strangers, male and female, tell me i'm beautiful, or I look great tonight... At first it felt weird but after feeling the glow that it gave me - a random compliment with no expectations - I started doing the same for others. I'm loving it.
Also little things like getting a coffee at a place where I don't have a "buy 10 get one free" coffee card, and the next person in line does, I will ask the cashier to stamp their card for my coffees.
Small things can make a day or even, given the right circumstances (and you never know what those are) change a life.
Keep it up Ryan, cause those reactions, make people smile and enoy the smiles and the Moments.
:)
Had a patient who was celebrating his birthday with a heart attack. I couldn't provide him with a cake, but I was able to scrounge around find a portable DVD player for him to play one of his birthday presents - his gratitude for that caused a reaction in me. :)
Keep smiling.
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